How To Stop Fighting With Your Girlfriend?

Why do couples fight in a relationship? The simple reason is ego. The same person you fight with and get angry at is your sweet heart the moment the fight is over. Ego is not personal, it's in everyone and it would creep up every now and then especially in a close relationship.

The usual causes of fights in a relationship are

1. Difference in opinion

2. Misunderstanding the person's intention and words

3. The need to let off anger directed at something else

The worst of the lot is the third point. When you are angry with something else and you let out your anger at your partner it is bound to end up in a heated fight. The other two points indicate an onset of ego, when you want to defend your need to be right.

Is fighting okay in relationships?

All relationships initially might go through a love-hate phase. With time either one of it would win out. You either end up loving completely or you end up hating completely. So what is this love hate phase? Actually you very love and become the reason for you to hate the other person at times, especially when you get really angry or feel offended. That's just the ego which hates getting hurt, especially with someone who you love.

It's okay to fight in relationship but its bad to over do because it gets very stressful. Fights always lead to an emotional showdown and it can drain you of energy. Continuous fights would make you feel irritated and is usually the reason for split ups.

How do you stop fighting with each other?

Well one person would have to take up the onus of being the understanding one. If both of you end up defending egos it wont be long before you break up. Guys should be more controlled and less emotional. Don't let anything drag you into a defensive mode. That way you will be in control of your reaction to her outbursts.

She might instigate a fight, but your response is what will fuel the fight. If you are calm and distanced, when she is getting emotional or in a mood a fight, it a given that there will be no fight. In fact she will apologize to you for her behavior.

Guys need to be the source of stability in the relationship. Just swallow the anger which wells up and stay calm. You will be surprised at the results. Girls in general respect guys who have control over their emotions, especially anger. In fact some girls might test their boyfriend by instigating fight.

Follow the zen rule - stay calm stay detached, when a fight brews.