What is better a short call or a long call with your girlfriend? The answer is not so direct, but going by the golden rule of talking, guys are better off keeping it short. This leaves room for more calls from her.
Attraction is the key to a sustained relationship. If your girlfriend stays attracted to you, she will keep the relationship interesting on her own accord. In most cases, it’s the girl who makes for interesting bits in the relationship. The guy’s job is to keep her attraction going.
Guys who give less get more
It’s a strange paradox that early on in a relationship, guys who give more end up getting less and the guys who give less end up getting more. Girls are always the more giving in the relationship; so if that’s not the case you need to debug your relationship a bit.
Give her less attention and she will come back for more. That’s the secret to keep attraction alive in a relationship. This holds true from phone calls with your girlfriend.
If you are used to talking a lot, try to cut down a bit. Keep it short for some days. Don’t be so predictable.
It’s okay to talk for long but not always
You don’t need to change your behavior completely or else she will think there is something wrong. Just be unpredictable. There would be time when you don’t feel like talking and then there are times when there is nothing to talk about. Instead of talking a lot of non essentials which you might regret later, just keep the phone call short.
Girls like to talk, so if she is in a talkative mood let her talk. It would be rude to cut her off when she wants to talk to you. Guys who talk too much end up becoming unattractive to girls because there is no mystery about them. Leave a few things to her guess work; don’t talk out everything that’s going on in your life at all times.
What if you feel like talking long?
Guys need to be careful; a reckless behavior on your part can dent a building interest level on the part of your girlfriend. Remember that all this is true only when you are both new to the relationship and getting to know each other. Once the relationship is stable and you are contemplating marriage, it’s a different story altogether.
During the initial months, guys are better off keeping their phone calls short. In-fact it is best to allow your girlfriend to call instead of you calling her up. Don’t get too impatient about talking to her, live your own life. Girls love guys who have their own life and don’t depend on her to give them a life.
If you are always talking for long, she is bound to think you have all the free time in the world. In other words you don’t have a life of your own. Let her know you are busy at times. This will keep her wondering what you are up to.