How To Be An Alpha Male

All guys are internally alpha. There is not much to develop as there is to inhibit unconscious behavior. Certain behaviors dont work well in a relationship. Girls prefert to play the submissive role and they expect the guy to be more decisive and dominant. This is the natural way of things as it were. There are relationships where the girl seems to be more dominant than the guy, the chances of these relationships working well is a little slim. As a guy you need to understand that in your relationship you have to be the dominant and decisive force. Girls like it that way no matter how staunch they are about declaring the opposite to be true. Always remember the thumb rule, "Girls dont like making decisions", you need to be the guiding force in her life she would rather just relax in your company knowing that you will take care. Most of the best relationships work this way. Your girl would find it very attractive that you are in control, she would rather have things your way than take decisions of their own, why? because she is made of sugar and spice and everthing nice, got it?

Its your responsibility to take decisions

If you are taking her out for dinner be sure of where you want to take her. Dont ask her where she would like to go once she has settled in your car. Usually if you ask her decision, it would be common for her to answer with a "you decide". She would want to know how decisive you are, about your taste and your knowledge of the worldy things. So take some time to do research, its easy nowadays. There are lot of sites which would tell you about the best restaurants in your area or the best pubs to visit. Of course you can ask her if she is ok with the place you are taking her. Mostly she would not oppose as long as its not something she is uncomfortable with. If you are going on date you will need to fix the time when you want to pick her up. Be sure of the routes you are going to take. If a change of plan is required, then be quick about your decisions. Its okay to be wrong, but if you are indecisive it will be a turn off for her. Girls are very forgiving and they wouldnt mind if you lost your direction or if you couldnt find a parking place or stuff like that. Dont worry about the these things, just remember you need to be decisive even if your decisions go wrong.

Dont panic or get frustrated

Keeping your cool is of essence. Remember the thumb rule, "Panicking or worrying does not solve a thing" so be relaxed. Let things take their own course, everything works out for the good. If you run into a traffic jam and get late for a movie, try not get frustrated. Girls scare easily and they like to be in the company of someone who doesnot fear much. When you are stuck in a tough situation the girl would look up to you for guidance. So be ready for taking up responsibility for her safety. Dont panic no matter what happens, its a huge turn off for girls. Of course you will have her sympathies but its not the same as attraction. The alpha attitude has all to do with being relaxed. Dont let situations control your behavior. No situation is ever permanent, so it does not make sense to any situation so seriously.

Dont enter into arguements

There is a saying, "Arguement is the worst form of communication". Rightly so, no one ever wins an arguement so why involve yourself in it. Arguing with your girl about anything will only make you look insecure or defensive. Its easier to be mysterious, why do you want to reveal your point of view apart from proving that you are right. Its an ego's need to always try to defend one's opinion. You dont need to do it. Defending your opinion might win you an arguement but it will lose you a lot of attraction. Remember the goal, you want the girl find you irresistably attractive. During conversations there would come a point when she tends to disagree with your opinion of things. Dont try to defend your opinion. Remember the fact that truth needs no defence so if you believe in your opinion then you dont need to defend it. Relax and let her give her opinion, then with a casual "alright" just change topics. Let her know you are not the kinda guy who will be dragged into arguements. That will increase her respect for you tremendously. Its difficult to find people who are conscious enough not to enter into arguements. She will know you are one of them and so you will be a rare a catch for her.

Dont hesitate to walk away

Girls have an uncanny instinct to test guys. They do it out of their need to determine if your attitude is a sham or if you are really what you seem to be. Its easy for them to make out a show of confidence. Guys who try to fake it never make it with girls. You cant pretend to be confident if you have not perfected your body language. Thats why i urge you to practice till its become a part of you. Inspite of all that, girls can spring a few surprises. Be careful not to fall into the trap. You might have to endure a little pain, a little uncertainity or sometimes a little jealousy but dont ever succumb to it. Remember the thumb rule "You are the prize and she needs to get you" not the other way round. This is what you want her to believe always. If there ever arise a situation when she tries to insult you or tries to show you down, just walk away. Dont defend your point, dont argue, dont talk at all. Just walk away, you can obviously put in a bland exit statement like "i am leaving" or something like that. Dont turn back, she asked for it in the first place so its ok. It wont be long before she calls to apologize. She will learn never to treat you in a negative way and her respect for you would have raised a hundred fold. If you sit around taking insults from her then you are in for life time of suffering. She knows now that you can walk away and leave her alone anytime you decide.

Dont fall for her moods

If she pouts or sulks suddenly for no reason at all just ask her if she is okay. The most common response would be "I am ok, dont worry about it". Its best to not follow up on that. You cannot change a girl's mood by concentrating on it. If you keep asking her whats wrong, it will only instigate her to sulk more and she will get irritated with you. Why bother, is it really important for you to know why she is sulking? There could be hundred reasons, something as small as a bad hair day can make her sulk. Forget it, dont be her counsellor. If she is in a bad mood, let her be. Act as if you didnot notice and live in your world. If she has a genuine problem she will let you know even without you asking about it, and if the problem is silly she would know that you dont care for it. Most guys fall for the "bad mood" test. They get concerned and ask her whats wrong several times till she asks him to leave her alone for sometime. You dont want that happening. Remember the thumb rule "Always live in your world" dont try to enter into hers. She will love you for the space you give her. If she approaches you with a genuine problem use your ingenuity to solve it. Dont ever ask her to get out of her bad moods, she has the right to be the way she is. Girls have mood swings a lot more than guys. Its ok, they have the hormonal fluctuations to deal with. Its got nothing to do with you, so relax. Last thing she wants when she is in a bad mood is for you to get overly concerned. Your job is to be the source of strength and coolness. Stick to it.

how to treat a girl

Let me summarize the aspects of alpha attitude. The key is to remember that you are the dominant force, you take the decisions, you are the pillar of strength in the relationship. It is a responsibility, but its ingrained. All guys are internally alpha. Key points to remember are ..

• Dont let the girl draw you into an arguement, its a no win situation for you
• You take the decisions in your relationship, dont fall back on her for anything.
• There would be a few things she might be good at and girls love to help out. Dont worry about asking her to help you out with something you are not good at, like "paying your bills" or something. Just make sure you dont seek or beg for help, just ask for it or demand it.
• Always be dominant, girls like being submissive. This is true for all the girls.
• Dont let her moods influence you. Never ask her to change her mood, it never works out that way. The best thing to do is to let her be.

Domination is not being abusive

The reason why we see a split in most of the relationships nowadays is because guys are not sure of the stand they need to take. Girls have never been great at decision making, in fact rarely does a girl ever know what she wants. Dont depend on a girl's decision because she would say something which she doesnot really believe in. She might tell you indirectly that she hates your dominant attitude, but internally thats the reason why she gets attracted to you. Thumb rule, "Do what you think is right". All around the animal kingdom you will always come across the "male domination" factor. By domination I dont mean abuse. Being abusive is a sign of insecurity. Domination is a sign of confidence, you dont force anyone but follow what you think is right. Dont abuse a girl ever, not physically or mentally. Girls are very delicate inside, they have a soft heart even they try to pretend that they are strong. Its easy to hurt a girl physically and mentally, but it will only show how insecure you are about yourself. To take on a girl is like taking on a kid, dont even think about it. Get this clear, domination is not about being abusive. Domination is all about strength of character, integrity and decisiveness. Respect and attraction go hand in hand, you cant have one without the other. If a girl respects you she will feel a lot of attraction.