How to Ask Someone to Be Your Girlfriend

Asking a girl to be your girlfriend has the same feel to it as proposing to her.

Before you ask her to be your girlfriend it is important to set up the background. It is important that you have accomplished the below before proceeding.

• You have been with her for sometime and the both of you have gotten to know each other quite well.
• She talks to you quite freely and does not treat you like just another person.

Given the above conditions are satisfied it is fair to assume that she might be interested in you or she might just think of your as a friend.

Unless you actually ask her to be your girlfriend you can't be too sure. Girls have an uncanny way of leading on and then suddenly rejecting you when you propose love, the usual rejection dialogue being "lets just be friends".

It is also possible that she might reject you when you ask her to be your girlfriend, but she might start looking at your differently from then on and develop emotions for you with time.

So you will need to be clear about two things, firstly how to ask her to be your girlfriend and secondly how to handle the reaction.

How to tell her you love her?

Girls love decisive guys, if you are undecided about your love for her it will show in your words. So be clear about your emotions as the first step.

A few things you should avoid doing, when you ask her to be your girlfriend are given below

Being timid doesn't work

Don't ever say something like "I think I am in love with you, would you want to be my girlfriend?" It's almost a guaranteed reject and it sounds very servile.

Dont go out on a dinner

Don't make this into a special date. If you take her out for dinner and then propose your love to her, she might reject it and then the dinner becomes awkward and embarrassing. Worse, she might just walk off on you. Avoid yourself the pain.

No indirect communications

Don't send her an email or worse an sms.

No calls

Don't call her up, it is difficult to convey your feelings over a call and you cannot judge her reaction just by her words.

All the things mentioned above are to avoided because it either communicates a timid attitude or is not direct enough.

Here is what you should do

Its best to ask her directly and out of the blue. Use the surprise element in your favor. It does not matter where you ask her, just be frank in your words.

Say something direct like "I am in love with you and I want you to be my girlfriend". That's it, short and sweet. Don't say a word beyond this and maintain your silence while looking deep into her eyes.

How to deal with her reaction

Her immediate reactions never matters. Girls are always undecided and need time to think things out. After you propose love, it would be rare for a girl to throw her arms around you and say that she loves you too.

Most often than not, she would give you a stunned look. Don't get nervous; Just maintain your silence while looking into her eyes. This posture indicates dominance on your part. The last thing you want to do is act servile while asking her to be your girlfriend.

All the below reactions are ok,

She might walk away without saying a word or might say that she wants to think about it. Just let her go, she will come back to you sooner or later with the answer.

She might slap you on the face (ouch) and walk away. Don't say anything, and definitely don't slap her back. Stand your ground till she leaves, she will come back to you later.

She might just tell you - I never thought about you this way, can we just be friends. Your reply should be - No, I can't be just friends with you because I am in love with you. Don't defend yourself, just be direct and decisive in your approach.

The bad reactions are

She laughs at you, the high pitch incredulous laugh. This would indicate she never looked at you as a boyfriend material or that she already has a boyfriend. Quite truly, there is no place for laugher in the serious business of proposing love.

She tells you she already has a boyfriend. It may or may not be true, but it would definitely indicate that she is not interested in you.

You have done your part now just wait up

Till she gives you a definite answer, never call her up or initiate communication with her. Let her come back to you. If she cares for you she definitely will.